Hello everybody! Sorry it’s been awhile since I last posted, I’ve been busy with school and my personal life, but now I’m back! Since I’ve last posted, there have been several changes and updates. The first change is the name of this blog: instead of Sex Positivity, Anti Pornography, the blog is now called Feminists United Against Pornography. This change is to reflect the new goals of the blog and to serve as a way to unite readers together. I have also posted a comment policy, taken from the lovely Soulja4Christ © . This is in order to prevent spam. Also, since I’ve last posted, G has gone 13 days without pornography, thank you all for all of your love and support. A special shoutout to G for recommending I discuss feminism with my readers.
What is Feminism?
Feminism is a hugely controversial topic. I am linking to Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s TedTalk on Feminism, it is very brilliant and does a wonderful job at outlining and going into detail on what feminism is. According to Webster’s Dictionary, feminism is “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.” Sounds dandy, yes? Why am I shifting my focus on this blog to uniting my readers a feminists? Because pornography goes against all that feminism stands for. Pornography is the antithesis of feminism, because all forms of pornography stem from chauvinistic male pornography. For God’s sake, there has to be a feminist genre of pornography-that says a lot about the mainstream pornography out there. From what I’ve researched, a lot of “feminist” porn is not feminist at all.
Annie Lenox, former member of Eurythmics, in 2014 gave an excellent quote on feminism. When asked about her comments on Beyoncé and twerking, Lenox said the following:
“The reason why I’ve commented is because I think that this overt sexuality thrust — literally — at particular audiences, when very often performers have a very, very young audience, like 7 years older, I find it disturbing and I think its exploitative. It’s troubling. I’m coming from a perspective of a woman that’s had children.”
“Listen…Twerking is not feminism. Thats what I’m referring to. It’s not — it’s not liberating, it’s not empowering. It’s a sexual thing that you’re doing on a stage; it doesn’t empower you. That’s my feeling about it.”
Pornography is not empowering or liberating. You are filming yourself having sex for payment, what can be referred to as digital prostitution. Or you are posting pictures of yourself online for all to see forever. If you post nude pictures of yourself online, you are not being empowered or liberated, rather the opposite. You are allowing for yourself to be persevered online forever and are giving yourself to other people. Twerking is not liberating. Grinding is not liberating. Allowing yourself to be disrespected is not liberating. Having sex without protection to make a statement is not liberating. You are not a feminist if you post your naked pictures on a website for MEN, in order for MEN to masturbate/get mental stimulation from. You are the total opposite of a feminist.
What Feminism is NOT.
Since we had a discussion on what feminism is, but we also have to talk about what feminism is not. Feminism is not male bashing, hating men, wanting women to be superior to men, and desiring to punish men. Many people have this common misconception. We have to respect our brothers and sisters while advocating for equal rights for all. In my discussions with men who are anti-feminism, many things they cite are not relevant to what feminism is. These men say that there’s no wage gap, no rape culture, that porn is ok, etc. Feminism is much more than just these things.
Feminism is not about tearing men down, disrespecting men, objectifying men, etc. This is why pornography is harmful to all, because men and women are being turned into nothing more than objects who are used due to the size of parts of their bodies.
Why am I posting about Feminism in an Anti-Pornography blog?
Great question! As mentioned above, if you support the porn industry, you are not a feminist. Erotica is different in the sense that it’s written/drawn works, but it still can be used to objectify men and women, whether they’re real or not. This is not always the case, but keep in mind what you’re using erotica for before you use it. Feminism is such a controversial topic nowadays because there’s so many different types of feminism. I am a traditional feminist who believes in social, political and economical equality of the sexes. I do not believe that men are bad people or that they deserve to be punished.
We have to teach men and women that respect goes both ways. If you watch pornography, you are not respecting men, women or yourself. But most mainstream pornography goes against women. This is why this post is mostly discussing it from a feminine perspective. I don’t think by nature that human beings are disrespectful. But watching a pornographic movie or looking at naked pictures of other people when you know your partner doesn’t like it is disrespectful.
Don Jon, written and stared in by Joseph Gordon-Levitt, tells the story of a man addicted to pornography. I don’t know about you, but I believe this movie is brilliant and should be shown to more people in order to educate them about pornography addiction. Gordon-Levitt is a feminist and anti-porn activist. This Fox News article has a powerful statement from Joseph Gordon-Levitt:
” I wanted to tell a story about how people sometimes treat each other more like things, than like people, and how the media can sometimes play a part in that. I’ve always paid a lot of attention to the reactions people have to movies and TV and things like that because I’ve been an actor since I was a kid and especially recently I’ve heard a lot people say ‘Why can’t my life be like that movie you were in?’ or ‘Why can’t I find somebody like you in that movie?’ and I find that a little startling because real life isn’t like it is in the movies. Real life is actually a lot more beautiful and rich with detail and nuance but you’ll miss it if you’re constantly comparing your real life to fantasies. So that’s why I thought a story about a young man who watches too much pornography going out with a young woman who watches too many romantic Hollywood movies would be sort of a funny way to ask these questions.”
The human body is beautiful, but pornography twists it into something sick. More and more young women today are getting sucked into posting pictures of themselves online or sending them to a partner in order to get some sort of validation from strangers or a romantic interest. A majority of men and some women think pornography is acceptable in 2016. The current Millennial generation has grown up with pornography and feels it is acceptable. We’re so desensitized to other humans’ feelings that as a whole we think it is okay to look at porn when we have a real, living and breathing partner. Young girls feel more pressured to shave every part of their bodies perfectly, douse on perfume, dress provocatively and dance provocatively in order to get men’s attention. Young men are learning from porn and learn that women should be fully shaved, have 36-24-36 body type (big breasts, small waist, large hips), be willing to service them whenever, and that even if you have a girlfriend/wife it is okay to look at other naked women and disrespect her. Men like Joseph Gordon-Levitt are coming out today and getting other men to think about pornography.
Porn is not okay. Disrespecting men or women is not okay. Treating other human beings like objects is not okay. Love, respect and fidelity are what we should all strive for. We all need to unite as feminists in order to spread love, respect, fidelity and equality around the world. To those who are trying and slip up, at least you are trying to make changes. You are stronger than the men and women who continue to fuel this awful industry without a conscience. We have to get the word out about what porn does to men and women alike, how it affects the partners of addicts, and teach people to explore their sexualities alone and with a partner without porn. Thank You.