7 Week Update ~

G has been clean almost two months (will be on 1/4) and I am so proud of him! I wanted to share some things I’ve noticed in him that should inspire you to continue your fight against porn. 

Our sex life has improved tremendously. He is more passionate, spontaneous and he enjoys it a lot more. He can do it more often and finishes almost every time.

G glances at women in person a little more often but this is to be expected from what I’ve read, because he’s noticing people in person more because he’s not looking online. Hopefully this minimizes again.

He’s more affectionate, loving, compliments me and cares about my happiness even more. He knew porn made me cry and loathe myself, and he’s doing it primarily for me and also for himself. 

He feels like a better Christian. Christianity feels porn is wrong, and G thinks that a lot of porn is degrading and dehumanizing to women. 

He looks at women with more respect. He’s understanding more about women and that it’s wrong to make your SO feel she has to compete with porn.

G looks at my body more and touches me more. He did so a lot even when he looked at porn but I feel he does more without. I feel he focuses more on my body and wants to make me feel good inside and outside the bedroom.

It’s a great feeling and I’m thankful he’s making progress. ❤

Rise Up Together and Fight!

Today has been five weeks since G last relapsed in his fight against pornography and I’m very proud of him. A lot of my posts have been about exposing the pain and evil behind pornography, but this post is going to be showing love and support to those fighting the battle.

“I know it when I see it,” was a Supreme Court Justice’s response when asked about porn. We all know what it is. It is something designed to tempt men and women, and is much different than just admiring the human body or artwork. The problem is that so many people get sucked into the habit at a young age and do not understand why it’s wrong. G was exposed at around 10 years old, and I was exposed at around 13-14. Both of our parents didn’t talk to us much about sex and people get curious. Unfortunately, G has dealt with his struggle half his life and I never really had a problem with it.

Many men and some women are like G. Even though they know it’s wrong deep down and unChristian, people still get tempted. Adam and Eve faced temptation, and Eve arguably was the one who convinced Adam to eat the apple, so women have been seen as tempting since Biblical times. Due to these temptations people will rise and fall many times before they kick the habit.

For people like G, Soulja 4 Christ and others who struggle with this battle but are trying hard, thank you. Even if you fall sometimes, you’re showing others that they have to at least try to see the evil in exploiting others for our own gratification. Thank you for recognizing women as your sisters and that they deserve respect and love. Thank you for understanding this habit breaks your girlfriend/wife’s heart. Thank you for understanding that it is not just insecurity on women’s part, but also that it is an emotional betrayal. We know that there are other good looking people out there that may grab your attention, but it’s hurtful when you want to see other women naked when we make ourselves vulnerable to you, expose our bodies to you and can only expose them to you. If someone walked in on your wife and girlfriend getting changed or masturbating you would likely be deeply upset. That is how we feel when we’ve seen you looking at this stuff.

Thank you for choosing us and loving us despite our flaws, scars and imperfections. Thank you for deciding that being with us outweighs the other options out there. The true men out there are the ones who know that porn is an injustice to men and women. You are all true men even if you fall down many times before you conquer the battle for good. Thank you for all that you do to show us we’re special to you and that you want to be with just us. We love you and just want to know that our bodies, personalities and faces will always be in your mind. Thank you for doing your best and pushing other women out of our relationship. 

To all the men in our lives who struggle with this, we can’t thank you enough for your courage, bravery and attempts to be better men. ❤️