This post is inspired by my friend AnonymousAnna.
As some of you may have heard, Lisa Rinna recently posed nude in order to celebrate PlayBoy magazine beginning to publish nude pictures against. A Ted Talk has discussed how women are either “f*ckable” or “invisible”. As a woman, you are pressured to flaunt your sexuality publicly or be shy and thus invisible. This pressures many female celebrities to post nude pictures or partially nude pictures. Rinna, 53, posted a picture on Instagram over the weekend to celebrate PlayBoy going back to posting nude pictures in its magazine. She encourages her followers to embrace the beauty of the female body, while posting a censored picture of herself. This is a blow to the fight against pornography. For about a year PlayBoy started publishing cultural articles and celebrating the beauty of women without them posing nude.
Society pushes these things on us to be news and we all buy into it! We follow into celebrity sex lives, nude pictures, and other vulgar things. When we seem to get ahead, we also get set back 2 steps. Female beauty is being tarnished and turned into something for men to get sexual pleasure from and for them to masturbate to it! We can feel beautiful about ourselves without having so show off our bodies for the world to see. If you are a Christian, you are supposed to save your body for your spouse and only your spouse. You are not supposed to pleasure yourselves to pictures of other naked people.
Unfortunately, human beings are fallible. I’ve looked at leaked celebrity pictures, G has, and many of you have as well. But what we have to remind ourselves is that while the celebrity may be consenting of posting their picture, it is the unfortunate reality that it cheapens the human body and turns it into something for instant gratification. We all get curious, but we have to try and resist the urge to cheapen ourselves in the process. Instead of turning yourself into something respectable and something that brings independence to women, you are turning yourself into something that men can get off on and can use to hurt someone else. Elizabeth Smart discusses in this article how her abductor used pornography to rape her and force her to participate in his fetishes. How would you feel knowing that your nude pictures/videos encouraged someone to sexually assault/rape another person? Smart says that porn made her living hell worse, and that her captor, Brian David Mitchell, frequently watched hardcore pornography and it made him rape her more frequently. He’d look at porn and would show her the images before raping her.
Smart says how her captor would look and stare at the porn and talked about the women, and would tell Smart that they were going to do what the actors were doing. She even went as far as to say that if it weren’t for pornography that Mitchell wouldn’t have abducted her. She says he wasn’t satisfied with just porn and needed someone to reenact what he saw.
What is news worthy about a celebrity, male or female, showing off their body ? It’s nothing new, yet we are drawn to it in order to fit in. Omg did you see X’s booty pic? Oh yeah, did you see Y’s porn video with her ex? What about a child being abducted, someone being murdered by a serial killer, or even accomplishments of women in different countries? Those things are overlooked thanks to the Kardashians and the porn industry. Our society pressures young women into showing more skin in order to stay relevant! Notice how celebrities who do not show skin are not as popular as those who do. Young women are being influenced by famous people like the Kardashians, Lisa Rinna, Rihanna, etc. I’ve been told that if I showed more skin I’d look sexier and that if I showed people my breasts or vagina that I would be more f*ckable.
There isn’t really much tasteful nudity. Nudity to add to a storyline and that was brief. Or even just implied nudity. Most movies today have a lot of nudity and simulated sex that can make your skin crawl. Movies of the 70s and 80s had very minimal nudity and had tasteful, beautiful love scenes. “Does pornography cause rape?” is the wrong question to ask; rather, “Does pornography influence rape?” According to RiceStandard, heavy porn consumption by males doubles the likelihood of a male sexually assaulting his partner (note it does not say rape). Each second 28,000 people are watching pornography, and pornography generates $13B a year. It is not about ending freedom of speech, but rather discouraging violence against women. People who look at a lot of porn tend to view men and women as objects for their entertainment. There are differences between how porn actresses looked in the 80s versus how they look today. Even pictures such as Lisa Rinna’s selfie. Women are designed to fit the male fantasy (wide hips, big breasts, big butts, shaven, etc.) and reinforces male dominance. General Motors, AT&T, Fox and the New York Post all receive revenue from the porn industry. That is why it is so dominant and many psychologists, actors, and politicians do not fight against porn. Some comments on this article include a woman saying she was raped at 16 and her rapist was a porn addict, so who says porn doesn’t hurt anybody? And a young man saying that men post pictures in their rooms of porn stars or “non-porn” images that are sexual such as the Dallas Cowboys, and that the key to changing this in society is for men and women alike to say that it is not okay. A woman who watches porn herself even says that she’s noticed her male partners who view a lot of porn were more violent and more degrading to her during sex, and were not as consenting as partners who didn’t view a lot of porn.
Another article I found is by VAWnet, which seeks to end gender based violence. This article says how the question to look at is not whether porn directly causes rape, but rather can it shape attitudes that can factor into rape. This article says that porn shapes the male-dominant view towards sex, is used to break down victims and force them into sexual activity, causes someone to separate fantasy from reality, and provides manual training to abusers. Men think that coming on a woman’s face is “normal”, that women should be shaved, and that their fantasies are the only ones who matter.
Finally, the Gospel Coalition discusses the normalization of pornography and how it is detrimental to society. 14-year-old Daisy and her friend snuck out to meet three teenage boys from school. Daisy was left for dead in the cold and had twice the legal driving limit of alcohol in her system. One boy pled guilty to sexually assaulting the younger girl, and the two others pled no contest to giving Daisy alcohol. One of them filmed themselves having sex with Daisy. Charges were dropped against the boys due to lack of evidence. Daisy and her siblings were teased at school, her mother lost her job, and their house was burned to the ground. Daisy says after you’re called a slut, whore and bitch for so long you just start to believe it. The article calls it “Exhibit A” for rape culture which blames rape victims and normalizes male sexual violence. 39% of college males and 23% of college females viewed bondage porn, 18% of college males and 10% of college females have watched rape porn. Their bodies and minds are in key developmental stages and they are learning to associate sex with rape, bondage and degrading men/women.
Porn represents women as being inferior. While both sexes are being degraded, more often than not women are the ones who are being spit on, hit, being cursed at and tortured. Andrea Dworkin, a feminist, says “equality cannot co-exist with rape . . . and it cannot co-exist with pornography . . . because implicit in [both] is the inferiority of women.”
Porn objectifies women and says only their bodies are important, not their feelings or experiences. They are a sex toy to be used. Notice how MOST celebrity nudes that are leaked are of women, and most people who choose to post naked pictures of themselves are women.
Porn teaches us that sex is everything and that sexual gratification in that instant moment is most important.
Porn encourages male aggression and gives men an excuse for assaulting women. “Boys will be boys” and “Guys need porn” are based off this idea. Scientists say “people who watch a lot of porn are likely to need increasingly graphic material to achieve the same sexual stimulation.”
Until we as a society react against the pro-male, anti-female culture, and fight back against this rampant sexual culture, things won’t change. The porn industry rules many major cooperations in the U.S. and the world, and the funds for these industries go towards many government programs. We are conditioned to find celebrity nude pictures to be exciting and thus celebrities are sharing nudes to stay relevant. As women, we are taught that our feelings on this subject are worthless: we are the inferior sex, our opinions don’t matter, and we have to deal with a male partner looking at porn. Men are taught that porn doesn’t hurt anybody, that it is beneficial, that if the news is publishing pictures of people that it is okay and it is news, and that they can have a girlfriend/wife but also peruse the internet for a limitless supply of beauties.
Again, in my opinion porn is not cheating in the traditional sense of being physical with another person, but is it really much better? You look at other people naked when you should only see your spouse naked. Porn encourages us to value our partner less. If you have to ask yourself “Is this porn?” you likely have your answer. If you are trying to get sexual gratification out of the image you are looking at, it is porn. I believe that it is about intent. Slip ups are when seeing something causes you to have a temporary lapse, but not a full blown relapse, and may be isolated to one-two days. A relapse is when you repeatedly continue to look at porn and masturbate. A relapse is an indefinite period of time.