More on Revenge Porn


Hello everyone, I wanted to talk further about revenge porn and give you some stats on it. The above image is from Cyberbullying.org, and the website gives more stats as well. 

According to a 2015 study of 1606 people, 61% (980 people) admitted to sexting with a partner, and 23% (361 people) say that they have been victims of revenge porn. 93% said they suffered emotional distress from being a victim, 82% suffered in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning. 51% of victims have considered suicide. 55% feared it would affect their professional life and 39% of victims were affected in the workplace. 

When you visit amateur porn sites where you are able to upload personal photos, of course they tell you not to upload pictures of minors, non consenting adults, or sexual assault victims, but who really listens to that? It’s like reading the terms of service, we always just scroll through. If 23% of pictures are revenge porn, we can put it into perspective. If there’s 10,000 pictures on a website at a given time, 2,300 will be revenge porn. Many amateur websites do not make sure that the people in the pictures are consenting adults, so you may be looking at child porn if you browse these websites. 

34 states have revenge porn laws (6 more have pending legislation) as of 2015. New Hampshire, a state that now has active legislation, considers revenge porn to be a Class B Felony. Major networks like Facebook, Google and Twitter are working to remove illegal porn from their network, but with the millions of new images added daily it is often hard to keep up with it. A friend of mine told me of how her friend went to a club and got drunk and someone took a picture of her vagina up her skirt and posted it on Facebook. By the time Facebook did something about the picture, a lot of other people had already saved and distributed the picture elsewhere. Many victims are illegally recorded or hacked, but many willingly send the pictures with an implied sense of trust. 


Many times websites will allow the scorned ex to post the victim’s social media links, emails, phone numbers, etc., and often many victims are stalked. Unfortunately there are websites solely dedicated to humiliating exes where men can write about their exes, share nude pictures and even give information that can be used to find the person. Due to the millions of porn surfers online, it is easy to save the pictures and distribute them elsewhere, so you can never be fully sure that you’re looking at something consentual. Guys, I’m sure some of you exchange pictures with your partners. How would you feel if your phone was hacked and her pictures were posted online for everyone to see? Including on amateur websites? You really can never tell if the pictures you’re looking at are consensual, and the ones that are only contribute to nonconseual pictures being posted. Porn stars consent at the time of the shoot, but many have regrets, and sometimes videos are posted that they didn’t agree to have posted anyway. 

It is important to be aware of the world around you, both in person and online. There are always things that will try to tempt you, such as advertisements, television, social media, etc., and it is all about learning to deal with that temptation. Know that just because you see something provocative on television or if you hear about a story on the news that you don’t have to feed into the monstrosity. By viewing pornography, whether consensual or not, you are creating a demand for it, and that leads to non consensual material whether you like it or not. Pornography is just digital and legal prostitution. We have to be the change we want to see in the world. If you wouldn’t want your wife or daughter’s personal pictures on those websites, then don’t browse them. Simple as that. Celebrities, everyday people and porn stars all have rights to privacy. Some revenge porn victims are as young as 11, so when you browse revenge porn websites you may end up looking at child porn.

When you see something tempting, just stop using your phone and do something else. Catch yourself before you wreck yourself. If you know reading or watching something may trigger you, just avoid it. It will get easier over time to deal with triggers. Don’t contribute to the sex trafficking industry and digital prostitution industry. Each click gives them power to keep posting material. We have to find ways to get the word out so people don’t view these things. Porn itself is wrong, immoral and can be considered a form of infidelity, but revenge porn is worse because there are millions of pictures online and some victims don’t even know. Spread the word, think before you click. 

Here are some Ted Talks that may help you:

Pornography Isn’t Your Problem
Growing Up in a Pornifed Culture
The Porn Paradox
Why I stopped watching porn
The Great Porn Experiment
They are between 7 minutes and about half an hour long. I would recommend if you don’t have much time to focus on Why I stopped watching porn, The Great Porn Experiment, and the Porn Paradox. They will talk more about the points I brought up. 

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